Three Things I Wish I Could Say to Every Young LDS Woman

by Melanie Steimle

I recently moved into a ward that is quite diverse in the range of ages represented. There are a good number of young married women in the ward, and occasionally I’ll hear one of them make a comment about school or work that makes me want to jump in with a piece of advice. Unsolicited advice, though, is rarely well-received, especially when it’s coming from someone you barely know. Luckily I know of a place where I can give all of the unsolicited advice I want: it’s called the Internet. So I’m taking advantage of this platform to talk about three things I wish all young LDS women – and men – would consider.

1. Being a stay-at-home mom is a great life plan, but it’s not a career plan.

Over the years I’ve heard the thought, “I don’t care about school/my degree/work; I just want to be a mom” iterated in many forms. I totally respect the decision to be a stay-at-home mom, but the fact is, you can’t be sure that this is even an option for you until you actually have a baby in your arms. Too many LDS women don’t plan or invest themselves in their education and careers. Too many LDS women select a major based not on their interests and talents but upon a narrow definition of subjects that they assume will best prepare them for motherhood. Too many LDS women settle for low-skill, low-paid jobs, assuming that their time in the work force will be short term, rather than investing themselves in careers that could be immensely satisfying and remunerative. It is much, much easier to scale back or off-ramp a career than it is to jumpstart one, so why not build a body of experience now? Building a career now will also give you many more options for flexible or part-time work, if in the future you decide not to work full time. So invest now in finishing at least one degree or credential and getting some legitimate experience on your resume. Too many LDS women are closing doors and shutting themselves off from opportunities long before they need to make decisions about balancing work and family. Which leads me to my second point…

2. Work and family is not an either/or proposition.

There are times and seasons in life. Ninety percent of LDS women will need or want to work at some point in their lives. 90% – that probably, almost definitely means you. Even being a stay-at-home mom may be a season, so plan for how you’ll spend your time and dedicate your energies before and after raising your children. Too often we view work and career as plan B, an inadequate alternative to the “better” or “more righteous” lifestyle of a homemaker. We rightfully spend a lot of time preparing our young women to be wives and mothers, but we do a terrible job at preparing them to find work and careers that they’ll actually enjoy. We often fail to acknowledge that some women won’t have the option of staying home to raise children, and others will choose to continue pursuing a career while they grow their family.

3. Consider all of your options.

In LDS culture we often take for granted that a woman will quit working or even stop studying once she has a baby. We expect that financial resources should go to a husband’s education, since he will be the one providing for the family. We assume that a woman will put her education or career on hold in order to allow her husband’s career to advance. None of these decisions is wrong, but the assumption that these are always the right decisions is extremely problematic. Prayerfully explore your options – all of them – as you make decisions about education and career.

Finally, (and this really should be #4), have confidence in your decisions! Too many of the women I’ve spoken with recently, whether they’re working, in school, or at home raising children, are apologetic in describing what they do. If you’ve made your decisions prayerfully and with the Spirit – which I hope you have – own those choices! I want to see your eyes sparkle when you talk about what you’re studying in school. I want you to excitedly tell me what you’ve accomplished at work this week. I want to hear the pride in your voice as you describe how you’re caring for your family. We are women of talent, power, and influence; let’s use those things in whatever circumstances we’re in!

What do you wish you could tell young LDS women about work, education, and family?

43 Comments on “Three Things I Wish I Could Say to Every Young LDS Woman

  1. GREAT article! I want to echo all that you said, particularly considering all of our options. I really wanted to be a surgeon at one point, but the thought of fitting in a doctor’s life and motherhood didn’t make sense to me — I was not married, but wanted and planned to be. For that and other reasons, I chose an eductional path with more mom-friendly options.

    As it turned out, I didn’t marry till I was 33, and children didn’t come until I was nearly 40. Though I did feel guided in that alternate, mom-friendly career path, it still makes me wonder. I could’ve been a physician for many years before becoming a Mom.

    Follow your heart and be OPEN!

  2. Excellent, excellent points! I worry about the YW in our ward because the majority of women in our ward (including their mothers) are SAHMs. I wonder if the YW are counting on being SAHMs themselves, and I wonder how many of them will actually get that dream.

  3. Where were you when I was 20? I did all things you mentioned. Worked at low paying jobs to put my husband through school, planned on being a SAHM while my husband supported the family. My husband does support our family and I have a great life. But it turns out, I really like having a job, and I’m good at it. The problem is my choices are limited by my lack of investment in my career when I was younger. Now at 56, I have a job I love, but will not advance, because it didn’t occur to me at 20 that investing in me should have been part of our plan, and no one else mentioned that to me. This post should be required reading for all women ages 12 to 30. Even if they don’t take your advice, just to make them think about themselves in this way. Thanks!

  4. I was thrilled last week when teaching the Young Women in our ward the lesson “Why is it important for me to gain an education and develop skills?” (https://www.lds.org/youth/learn/yw/self-reliance/develop?lang=eng) that a suggested way to introduce the lesson was:
    “Invite the young women to imagine that a friend from church tells them she is going to drop out of school, explaining, “I’m going to get married someday, and my husband will support me, so I don’t need to keep going to school.” How would the young women encourage her to continue to pursue an education? ”
    The lesson was really impressive – there was no hedging about maybe needing an education if your husband dies or something. Just straight up telling the young women that they need an education. It was so refreshing.

  5. Do you mean you wish you had gotten an education? I’m in my upper 30’s and feel like I’m at a cross roads. My youngest is a kindergartner and I’m trying to decided if I should complete the last 2 years of college or just start working? My family could use the financial help, but I also don’t want to be taken completely away from my role as a mother. Is it really worth the time and expense to complete my degree? I’d love to learn from your experience.

    • Yes! Definitely finish your degree! There are probably scholarships out there for women returning to school to finish degrees. Also, the contacts and opportunities you will get while in school will help you launch forward in a way that just finding a job could not do. Good luck!

    • But here is my advice. Make sure whatever money you spend, you will get back. As an example, if you live in an area with hundreds of accountants and you spend $20,000 a year to get your degree, it may be hard to earn enough to pay back $40,000 in student loans. I have watched so many people get masters degrees when the area they live in doesn’t pay any more for masters than bachelors. Just be wise.

  6. D. Kelly– yes, it’s worth the time and expense to complete your degree. I’ve been the hiring manager many times. If you don’t have a degree, I’m not going to hire you. The salary you’ll earn with a degree (depending on the degree, of course) will far out pace what you’ll be able to earn without a degree. It is almost always worth getting a degree or certification. Additionally, as a new graduate, you’ll have access to the recruiting and placement that comes with a university.

    Yes, it’s tempting to start earning immediately, but you’ll earn less, have less flexible employment, and be limited in your advancement opportunities. It’s worth it (unless you are selecting an extremely esoteric field, so don’t do that,) to get a degree.

  7. Thanks for your feedback. I’m hearing a lot these days about avoiding expensive universities and going a more vocational education route. But it seems like many of these jobs don’t allow for growth. It’s reassuring to hear that a college degree is still worth the investment.
    Now the biggest choice I face is selecting a path that will allow me “grow into” a full time career and still give the flexibility to work part time while my kids are young and still need me. I would love to hear from more women about their stories or suggestions on career paths that allow you to balance these rolls.

  8. D Keller- I am currently working towards going to medical school and I am in my 30s. I have known of people in their late 30s and 40s going to medical school. You are never too old to do anything you want!

  9. D. Keller – I am 38 and was in your place 5 years ago, though my youngest is in kindergarten this year and my oldest is 16. I am now in my last year of graduate school and will be on the job market next year. Here is what I did – I found two different online programs so that I could complete my degrees from home (I got a BS and will have an MPA). Both online programs were accredited and the tuition was very reasonable (my BS program accepted credits from previous college courses so I only had to complete 2 years of program specific coursework which kept costs down and my graduate program total tuition is less than $20,000). I was also able to network and find a flexible (paid!) internship in my field, which is CRUCIAL to SAHMs like myself who have no real professional experience. If you live in a college town you can attend day or night classes as well, depending on your program requirements. But it is possible to do this and be there for your family. Your husband’s support of time and sharing duties is also important, and the kids pitching in is good too, it teaches that the whole family can work together to help any family member progress.

  10. I am just going to point out that working outside the home does not “taken completely away from [your] role as a mother”. Through financial necessity, other than a couple of 9 week maternity leaves, I work full time and I am just a much a mother as a woman who is financially able to be with her children 24/7. This is one of the first things that needs to change is the perspective that a woman is somehow less of a mother if she works outside the home. I applaud you in the fact that you are trying to thoughtfully decide between an education or working. Remember when it comes to degrees they are not all created equal and it is usually more beneficial to study in a area that will lead to a satisfying career than to just get the piece of paper. It might be helpful to possibly work part time in the field you are finishing your degree in to make sure that is the path you really want to pursue. Good Luck.

  11. D. Keller: Yes, absolutely complete your degree. It is a wise investment and will ultimately pay off with higher earning power and better jobs (better jobs = holiday pay, better benefits, less required night or weekend shifts, more flexibility). Granted, as others have said, not all degrees and not all colleges or universities are equal. I cannot stress enough how important it is to do your research on the institution. A degree from a modest community college, state school or a reputable online program is worth the money. The high priced tuition from private schools that have huge marketing and advertising budgets may not be a wise investment. Do your research, finish your degree.

    (I’ve also been the hiring manager many times and when you have 100+ resumes for a single open position the first thing sorting criteria is a degree/no degree split. It will be worth it, I promise.)

    xox

  12. Thank you. What a breath of fresh air this was to read. I hope every young LDS woman gets an opportunity to read it.

  13. There’s so much I’d want to tell a young woman about education and career, beginning with how great it feels to find fulfilling work, where you can use your talents to make a contribution to the world. It’s such an empowering feeling to know that other people need what I can give.

    I strongly echo #4. I’ve spent too much time over the years apologizing for or justifying my decisions. Much too much. There are way better uses for this energy.

    More practically, one of the best pieces of career advice came from the bishop’s wife in one of my singles wards many years ago. She advised the women that we should prepare ourselves for a career we would enjoy, and that would enable us to live comfortably, rather than marginally. Of course, earning power is one of only many factors to consider when choosing educational and career routes, but it’s worth considering. As a teen and young adult, I was thoroughly convinced that I would never care how much money I made. Now that I’m paying off student loans and saving for retirement, I find myself caring very much.

    And lastly, I’d be remiss if I didn’t encourage young women to consider careers in STEM (science, technology, engineering and math) fields. There are so many different kinds of interesting, fulfilling opportunities in these fields, and we need more women.

  14. Thanks everyone for your comments!

    Gina – I’m thrilled as well that such a question was posed in a YW lesson.

    Elizabeth – You said, “I work full time and I am just a much a mother as a woman who is financially able to be with her children 24/7.” Yes! This is the message we need so much more of.

  15. I realize that I’m the odd man out here, but I don’t agree. Growing up in the church I was never lost on the counsel from the church to get your education and prepare yourself financially. Even in college, when I was weighing options, I realized that incurring education debt was one of the few types of debt condoned by church leaders.
    Women’s education and career prep has indeed been around for a long time: “According to current life expectancies, a 20-year-old woman can look forward to more than 50 additional years of life. Not all of that time will be spent in bearing children and raising families… A young woman’s education should prepare her for more than the responsibilities of motherhood. It should prepare her for the entire period of her life.” Elder Oaks said this in 1975! I see that his statement agrees with your article, but it’s not uncommon curriculum in the church, and I don’t see that message being neglected among YW even now.
    I also represent a (probable) minority of SAHM women who have a degree, love to work, and have chosen (I am grateful for the ability to choose) to stay home. I can’t tell you what a challenge it is to resist entering the workforce, where I can actually have a yardstick with which to measure my daily achievement. With child rearing, there is no daily achievement saying that the hard work you put in will ever produce results. And it certainly isn’t glamorous.
    Though I also relish my job (unpaid as it is), it is a job. It demands the best of me, and it makes sense that the Church’s first concern is to prepare young women to be moms. There is no on the job training. Neither are there certifications nor yearly evaluations to let you know where you could improve. And yet your influence is so deeply felt, you’re sure to cause some degree of irreversible damage just in the learning curve. No wonder women are apt to choose their degree based upon what prepares them for motherhood!
    So, though I agree with your counsel to young women, I don’t think it is unwise to prepare yourself for motherhood above a career. Yes, I believe getting a degree is a wise and valuable goal, but so is pausing your education/career to raise a family. There are always opportunities for education if you’re determined to make both happen.

  16. I was prepared to dislike this article. I went into it looking for the backhanded compliments and typical feminist rhetoric, so I was pleasantly surprised. I liked it enough to share with my group and have a discussion on it.

  17. Becky, I wonder what it is you don’t agree with. It’s wonderful that you always knew that education was important and that the church supported the education, betterment and employment of women. That is not what is being emphasized in all YW lessons, by LDS culture in many areas, or, I assume by the comments I have heard girls make during their lessons, at home. While being a mother is still and always will be an essential part of the education of LDS women, there are realities that an increasing number of women within the church are learning the hard way.

    I have not had the opportunity to get married. I am 36 and have been working many more years than I ever thought I would “need” to. While I know getting an education was always taught in my YW meetings, the first thing people would always say after they found out I was going to Rick’s College was, “You’ll be married in 6 months.” There was such a strong focus on the marriage part but very little on the education and employment part, and it is hard for some young women – or many? – to see beyond the marriage push, especially when lessons focus on marriage and the role of women as mothers but not, for example, being a good employee. I have sat through a few YW lessons where girls talk about their dreams but that they are prepared to give them up to start a family and support their husbands – even things that they wouldn’t have to delay for a family, such as their love of playing instruments because they wouldn’t have time with kids…15 year olds already planning to give up things, including completing their education, before they’ve even graduated high school. It is a mindset they already have at a young age because of the culture of the church. And because their leaders got married so young (the case in the ward I was in), they didn’t encourage anything different because that is exactly what they did too.

    As I have had to support myself entirely on my own, something I NEVER would have foreseen when I was young, I wish I would have heard more encouragement about work and financial independence through that education. I wish more people had asked me about my college classes and if I considered studying abroad or internships instead of if I was engaged yet or if I was dating a lot. I didn’t know what I in all actuality really needed to be planning for in my future, and I sit through my mid-singles ward full of never married and divorced women who are in the same situation. There are more of us than you may realize, but we were never taught that that may be something we needed to prepare for beyond the idea that “some may not have the chance to marry in this lifetime, but they will be rewarded with the blessings of marriage and children in the next life.” What 14 or 15 or 16 or 22 year old plans for that to be them? The education of women in the church should encompass all of the realities, not just be a support for women who get married and stay married.

    Having to figure out how to support themselves and their young children after divorce – former students of mine, my sister, ward memebers, etc. – is something more LDS women are having to figure out, and that is the worst time to have to figure out if their education was sufficient enough to support themselves when they thought that they had time to worry about it later. While talking with young women – in and out of high school – about divorce may not be appropriate or may create fear, the reality is that I know too many beautiful, faithful women who banked on their husband, and their temple marriage didn’t save them from the reality of needing to have not only a “fall back” but a “move forward” in terms of skills for employment for themselves the their children. “There are always opportunities for education if you’re determined to make both happen” is true for young mothers if they have the luxury of a stable marriage. Unfortunately, many find out that they are again on their own after the bottom has dropped out rather suddenly. The stakes are a lot higher and the necessity of now doesn’t permit working on the education and being a SAHM.

    Getting an education should absolutely be for the betterment and ambition of the woman, which is what this article is about, and not about fear of divorce or the necessity because of being single. I did want to have a career, even if it was going to be for a short time early on. But “not agreeing” that this should be a new additional focus is ignoring the fact that a lot of young women in the church truly do hear only the lesson that they should plan on marriage and their husband’s ability to support them while they have kids, and they take no heed of the bretheren’s advice. I teach high school, and it is amazing to me how the culture trumps the counsel of the leaders in this area – girls starting school or not starting at all, getting married at 18 or 19, and having no real skills for the long run. Yes, they can always do this later or at the same time as being a SAHM, but what if they need it for a now they didn’t know was coming?

  18. **girls starting school and then quitting when they get married so they can work to pay for his education

  19. **girls starting school and then quitting when they get married so they can work to pay for his education or not starting at all, getting married at 18 or 19…

  20. Erin, My wife and I were married when she was 18 and she’s finishing her doctorate to become a nurse practitioner 5 years later. Don’t assume marrying young means abandoning other options, that’s fallacious.

  21. Thank you for this! I agree with this lady’s many points especially the one that stresses that we as women should prepare ourselves adequately and get a degree and bloom as individuals and in our careers as we prepare for motherhood and especially it’s better if we are more well-prepared and sharpened just in case motherhood won’t come our way too soon. However, if we are blessed with a marriage, a husband who can provide for our needs, and children from our Heavenly Father, I agree more with what the prophets say in this link:
    https://www.lds.org/manual/eternal-marriage-student-manual/mothers-employment-outside-the-home?lang=eng

  22. Thank you for this article! I want to tell the young women in my ward these EXACT same things! I think many are surprised that I just had my first child and I also decided to go back to school for a Masters. I really felt that both were right, and the right time for both was now. It’s a challenge, and I still don’t know how it’s all going to be done, but I have faith that God cares that we have a positive impact with our talents wherever we can use them!

  23. Thank you for sharing specific advice and opening an important conversation. I wish I’d heard similar thoughts when I was growing up!

    I married at 20, finished a BA in Public Relations, and despite a paid internship, I struggled to find a related job in Utah County during the early 2000s. I took and left a temp job to take another internship in editing/publishing which led to a job for a few years before stepping out during a crash in the publishing market and being over my head freelancing with two small children. After a great decade as a SAHM and homeschool mom too, we’ve had more changes and this fall I found myself with both kids in school. I can see mistakes back then but would love recommendations (books, programs, experiences…) about how to find what I love and can balance with a family when my degree might not be “it” for me and I’ve been out for a decade. I could go back to school for a Master’s in something (what?) but it seems like an expensive way to figure it out. Any advice for finding what you love/can do/transitioning back into something? Thanks!

    • Emily, my recommendation is to find some volunteer opportunities that appeal to you on an education track/career level. That is what I did when I was pregnant with my 4th, and 10 years late that volunteer opportunity has guided me to other volunteer opportunities and a training that opened my eyes to a whole new field that I had never considered before. That led me to a degree program, to a graduate degree program, to more volunteer opportunities that provided great networks in my field, and it just kept going. Think outside the box when you are looking at options – there are so many volunteer organizations out there for many different fields. Try some out and see where they lead you! A side benefit to my volunteerism was that I was often able to involve my older kids as well, and they got to know me as an individual, learn about their community, and see new perspectives, all experiences that I hope will enrich their lives and inform their decisions as they enter adulthood.

  24. I appreciate this post so much!! One thing I’d like to add about an education/career is what my mom told me, it’s a life insurance policy. Cause you never know what will happen! This isn’t to say a woman has to always work. My mom was a stay at home mom but she was up to date on her license for her career so if something happened to my dad and he couldn’t work, she could step in and support our family.

  25. I loved the article, thanks! I am extremely disappointed to see in the comments that a hiring manager would never hire a none college graduate. What a shame, think of all the amazing people you didn’t give a second look to that could have bee amazing. Some of the hardest working and most wonderful people I know don’t have a bachelors.

    I will say though the article itself really spoke to me! I put everything thing I had (financially, emotionally, etc) into getting my first husband through medical school and residency. It was an investment to me, thinking he was “doing all this” for our future and future family. Then, two year into practice he was arrested and sent to prison for 14 years. I had nothing. I had put him first on everything and now wished I had held my education and career development as important as his. Luckily I have a great job now and a great husband but you never know what life is going to hand you.

  26. Hi Erin,
    I can see where you’re coming from, and I can only imagine the frustration that results when the youth in your classes neglect their future and planning because they are banking on a husband to support them all their lives. That’s dangerous even if you have a husband.

    The part I disagree with is the idea that these attitudes are a result of what is taught in church lessons to YW. It is cultural (as you mentioned), and probably human nature to assume that the future holds the best, and not address possibilities requiring hard work and preparation.

    I’m don’t think that we should encourage our YW to look blindly toward motherhood with dewy eyes and plan on it happening, especially since infertility and other factors come into play. But I also don’t think it’s right to take that out of their future goal planning, or even out of the spotlight. Most women do end up being mothers and raising a family, married or not.

    I suppose we agree more than we disagree, because I do think it wise to teach financial skills, job prospects and work preparedness. But it’s just as important to teach how to mother (even if you don’t use it for your own children) and how to support family life. It’s not an outdated focus.

    Just to reassure you that I’m not ignorant to the challenges and surprises life holds, please know that my own mom was divorced and needed to support our small family. She already had a degree as a high school teacher, and didn’t want to go back to it. So she began again, doing what she had pursued as a SAHM: the dental field. She still works in it today. Her need arose, despite the preparation: she had already done the things that ‘would have spared her’. She had her degree, worked PT as a SAHM, and was financially savvy, and still she found herself beginning again. What I’m saying is that life rarely deals according to our plans. But you just can’t prepare for everything. So my idea (as incorrect as it probably is) is to go forward in life with hope, but with a determination to further my education as I go.

    I know several women in hard marriages who have continued their education. Sometimes because of it. I think if you are determined to do so, with faith and help (from places like workforce services, scholarships, and now the Church’s Pathway’s program) you can get your degree. I have so many do it. There are real possibilities there.

    Also, for the other lady who commented wanting to know ways to increase your resume for being a journalist, I’d check out HARO: helpareporterout.com where you can register to answer requests for small articles on varying topics. It increases visibility to blogs, and allows you to put your articles on your resume. Publishers from LDS news to Elle magazine draw from HARO. Good luck.

  27. Sorry that “amen” was a reply to a commenter not the article… didn’t realize since the reply button was below the comment and the post comment was below everything that the reply would show up independent of the comment… maybe something with the mobile view?

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  29. I appreciate this article and agree with the message. Might I suggest perhaps reconsidering the picture, though? I see no diversity in this photo, just lots of caucasian faces. It may seem a small thing, but I think it’s important to be as inclusive as possible.

  30. AmyJane,

    Valid point. As the person who usually selects the images for our articles, I want you to know that we do try to select images across our website that reflect diversity. In this particular instance, I didn’t have the 30-60 minutes that it often takes to find and select an image that did not include young women in tank tops or short shorts/skirts (which is something some object to), that did not make the young women look silly, that we could use legally, that did not cost us $15+, and that also reflected racial diversity. So I went with an image that we already had–perhaps a poor excuse, but that is the back story.

    Your comment speaks to the larger issue regarding the poor quality of stock images available that depict women. Getty images is trying to correct that–others need to join that camp, too.

  31. I think if you have a job and a husband you love you did something right. 🙂

  32. I usually ask teen girls what their plans are if they end up not getting married till they are 34 years old.This was my case. And when marriage happened for me if was part of the stream of …graduated college, met my husband, got married, and had a baby, all in the space of 23 months.
    I also tell them to trust the Savior, and believe his promises of all his blessings.

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  34. I think this is an awesome article! I’m a college student currently studying Pre-Med and aspire to be an OB/GYN. So many people, specifically in the church, always say after I tell them my plans is “Oh, you don’t want to do that! You’d be happier as mother” and it would always upset me. Truth is, I do want to be a mother but when the time is right for my future husband and I. I wish more people would understand it’s possible to have a career and be a mother, just more difficult.

    https://www.lds.org/manual/eternal-marriage-student-manual/mothers-employment-outside-the-home?lang=eng

    • Don’t get discouraged! A lot of LDS girls shy away from medicine because so many of their local church leaders and family members freak them out that they’ll never get married or have kids if they become doctors. Well guess what? I did payroll for a physician group at the U and there were plenty of mommy MDs that worked 2 nights a month in the ER and made just as much or more than a nurse in 20 days. They had a lot of money and the rest of the month to enjoy their kids!! (Medicine not my thing but money is so I majored in business and I work full time with 2 kids under age 2) and boy I did get ton of the “that’s going to interfere with motherhood” fodder during college and beyond.

      For any girl thinking about motherhood and a career: You can do more than you think you think you can. You will never know unless you try. You can work harder than you believe you have the ability to work. You can be a great mom and be a great lawyer, astronaut, doctor or CEO. You can give it all you got with your studies, your career and with your family. You can do whatever it takes.

      You can achieve more than anyone else thinks you can ever achieve. You can achieve all of your goals without sacrificing or compromising. So stay focused in college! Work hard! And have fun!!

  35. I’m no longer LDS, but this article resonated with me. Ironically, it was after I became a mother I realized I wanted a more secure future for her, so I went back to school while my husband works. No child is ever worse off for having TWO educated parents.

  36. Great article!

    But even with a degree it’s very hard to find a job, at least from my experience. My husband and I are planning on moving after he graduates, so that I can finally start my career. The job market is so competitive where I live now, and there aren’t enough jobs to go around. I have a low-paying job just to make ends meet, because nobody else would hire me. It’s frustrating at times having a job with such a low pay and no benefits, because I am stuck and I can’t progress financially. I hope to be a writer and a well-known author one day.

    I agree with the article. Women should do all they can to have a good career. Otherwise, how will your family make a living? In these days, you need both parents working, otherwise there isn’t enough money to make a living. It seems that nowadays it’s rare for a family to make enough money with just one parent working. My husband’s in school, so I’m the one who works. I’m attending graduate school so that I can find a better job in the future.

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